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  • ahinton
    Full Member
    • Nov 2010
    • 16122

    #16
    Originally posted by Flay View Post
    I should stay out of these debates...

    No, I am not homophobic, and forgive my flippancy. But I think we need to expand the language, rather than converge and re-use words.

    In the same way I wish that the term "partner" would not be used for social union. Surely another term could be found? It once caused considerable confusion when I introduced one of my business partners to somebody... :blush: :laugh:
    It can get quite tricky when there are two people who live together without being married of whom one works for John Lewis and the other for Waitrose...

    But these issues are indeed just about language and its use; of course new terms have to be used for new situations!
    Last edited by ahinton; 06-02-13, 08:57.

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    • Dave2002
      Full Member
      • Dec 2010
      • 18008

      #17
      Originally posted by ahinton View Post
      ... and I know and fully accept that I have more right to dictate or allow to be dictated to homosexuals how they should behave and feel about partners, sexual and otherwise than they have to dictate to me ...
      I think this might have been intended to be:

      ... and I know and fully accept that I have no more right to dictate or allow myself to be dictated to by homosexuals how they should behave and feel about partners, sexual and otherwise than they have to dictate to me ...
      I hope I've understood the underlying meaning, and that that was indeed what was meant.

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      • scottycelt

        #18
        Originally posted by jayne lee wilson View Post
        These homophobes are SO inventive in their variations...

        OR you're not homophobic at all, just misled by language...

        But you love Bruckner, so there's hope of Redemption...

        You want a lesbian love-manual? Here? As proof of...?

        But we both love Bruckner! LOVE is all we need...

        As you opened your ears to Bruckner, open your heart to all manwomankind...
        What a wonderful idea, Jayne!

        If lesbians also open their hearts to all manwomankind maybe they could drop their sexism and heterophobia and allow a change of the definition of 'lesbian' to include heterosexual males as well?

        Then we can all listen to the Te Deum together whilst thumbing-through our lesbian love-manuals ... ? :smooch:

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        • doversoul1
          Ex Member
          • Dec 2010
          • 7132

          #19
          Originally posted by ahinton View Post
          But these issues are indeedjust about language and its use; of course new terms have to be used for new situations!
          It must be a lot to do with the use of language. Traditionally, marriage was, and still is in many cultures, a system to set up a household where the next generation is to be produced. It wasn’t/isn’t primarily about relationship. Within this definition, if two people of the same sex live together because they want to so does not count as marriage.

          But I am with Flay #13.

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          • ahinton
            Full Member
            • Nov 2010
            • 16122

            #20
            Originally posted by Dave2002 View Post
            I think this might have been intended to be:

            I hope I've understood the underlying meaning, and that that was indeed what was meant.
            Partly, yes; "no" was indeed missing, but the passage should have read (and indeed does so now that I' ve corrected it)
            "I know and fully accept that I have no more right to dictate to - or endorse anyone else's dictation to - homosexuals as to how they should behave and feel about partners, sexual and otherwise than they have to dictate to me (which in my experience they have never done) about the same".

            Thanks for the prompt; sorry for the confusion!

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            • ahinton
              Full Member
              • Nov 2010
              • 16122

              #21
              Originally posted by scottycelt View Post
              If lesbians also open their hearts to all manwomankind maybe they could drop their sexism and heterophobia and allow a change of the definition of 'lesbian' to include heterosexual males as well?
              You sound (though correct me if I'm wrong) that's you've encountered few if any homosexuals, male or female, who are other than "sexist" and "heterophobic"; I am sad for you and can only conclude that our respective experiences therefore seem to be in inverse proportion to one another!

              Originally posted by scottycelt View Post
              Then we can all listen to the Te Deum together whilst thumbing-through our lesbian love-manuals ... ? :smooch:
              Make it the Eighth Symphony; you'll learn more that way...

              On another aspect of the subject, I do begin to wonder if Mr Pee believes that a marriage exists only if it its wedding ceremony has been conducted in a C of E Church, that its partners are of the opposite sex and have never previously been married (except where one or both have previously been widowed) and that it is for the sole or principal purpose of giving birth to children (so no celibates allowed). Perhaps I'm wrong, but I await evidence to disabuse me of my assumption...

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              • Bryn
                Banned
                • Mar 2007
                • 24688

                #22
                Surely Mr. Pee's minority must be the church-going members of society. Any statisticophile here care to offer the relative percentages for homosexuals and church-goers in the U.K. these days?

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                • ahinton
                  Full Member
                  • Nov 2010
                  • 16122

                  #23
                  Originally posted by Bryn View Post
                  Surely Mr. Pee's minority must be the church-going members of society.
                  Not quite, methinks; a minority - or at least not a large majority - among Church-going members of society, perhaps. But these attempts at categorisation that seek to over-simplify by pigeon-holing serve only to could the issues; I know Church-going homosexuals of both sexes and the Church only means "the Church of England" if someone wants to make it do so for the purpose of trying to justify certain arguments. I think that one would find a good deal less people in favour of homosexual marriage among those who attend mosques regularly, but that surely tells us more about the practice of Islam in Britain today than it tells us about the subject per se, doesn't it? Anyway, we should wait for Mr Pee to tell us what he thinks.

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                  • scottycelt

                    #24
                    Originally posted by ahinton View Post
                    You sound (though correct me if I'm wrong) that's you've encountered few if any homosexuals, male or female, who are other than "sexist" and "heterophobic"; I am sad for you and can only conclude that our respective experiences therefore seem to be in inverse proportion to one another!


                    Make it the Eighth Symphony; you'll learn more that way...
                    You are absolutely wrong, ahinton!

                    In the course of my working-life I had the pleasure of many friendships with colleagues whom I was told were homosexual (we never discussed our personal 'sexual orientation', that was considered a very private matter). The ones I knew all had a rich sense of humour and we had some great laughs, believe me.

                    So no need to feel sad for me, quite the contrary, and I, in turn, wouldn't wish to appear patronising by expressing any particular sadness for you!

                    Much more importantly I'm not really that fussed which Bruckner symphony I hear. The wisest comment I ever heard from a music-critic was 'what you consider to be the best Bruckner symphony always seems to be the one you've just listened to ...'

                    That has been my own happy and wonderful experience, ahinton!

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                    • amateur51

                      #25
                      Originally posted by Mr Pee View Post
                      After witnessing the fall-out from the Huhne/Pryce marriage, I cannot imagine why anybody, whatever their sexual persuasion, would wish to follow in their footsteps!!

                      Seriously, though, I am of the view that this vote re-defines marriage to suit a vocal minority. The whole thing is rendered somewhat meaningless anyway since the Churches are exempt.

                      And of course none of this was mentioned in the Conservative manifesto. It is a desperate attempt by Cameron to shake off his Bullingdon club image in the hope that it will make the Conservative party more appealing to the Gay community, and by extension the Guardian reading chattering classes. It is little more than political opportunism, and all it has done is split the Conservative party down the middle over a matter that matters not a jot to the vast majority of voters, most of whom have far more important things to worry about than gay "marriage".
                      You have no lesbian or gay relatives or friends, I take it Mr Pee? :erm:

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                      • ferneyhoughgeliebte
                        Gone fishin'
                        • Sep 2011
                        • 30163

                        #26
                        Originally posted by Flay View Post
                        In the same way I wish that the term "partner" would not be used for social union. Surely another term could be found? It once caused considerable confusion when I introduced one of my business partners to somebody... :blush: :laugh:
                        I once suggested "consort" to my considerably better half: such a lovely word, I thought! She eventually started speaking to me again. :sadface:
                        [FONT=Comic Sans MS][I][B]Numquam Satis![/B][/I][/FONT]

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                        • amateur51

                          #27
                          Originally posted by gingerjon View Post
                          The thrice-married MP Roger Gale agrees with you.

                          He said so in parliament.

                          I do wonder what he calls his non life-long sex-satisfying relationships though?
                          He was almost incandescent last night - where was St John's ambulance? :biggrin:

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                          • amateur51

                            #28
                            Originally posted by gingerjon View Post
                            But that does rather suggest that you do see a difference between a homosexual relationship and a heterosexual one? That's the bit I don't follow. In every way they are the same. I imagine a lot of straight people would be surprised by what does or does not go on in other straight couples' bedrooms so why get fixated on consumation, procreation or the need to know that it's military medium once a fortnight with the occasional rumpy on birthdays or after too much wine?

                            If it's a loving commitment between two people then it's a loving commitment between two people.
                            You've made me laugh and then smile, gingerjon - many thanks :ok::bubbly::biggrin:
                            Last edited by Guest; 06-02-13, 09:44. Reason: trypo

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                            • Mr Pee
                              Full Member
                              • Nov 2010
                              • 3285

                              #29
                              Originally posted by amateur51 View Post
                              You have no lesbian or gay relatives or friends, I take it Mr Pee? :erm:
                              I have plenty of gay friends. I do work in Theatre you know!!

                              The point about the C of E being exempt from this legislation is that it means this is equality with a very small e, because the rights of gay couples to get married are not the same as heterosexual couples, who can choose a Church wedding if they so wish. So what is the point of this bill? If it's about equality, then it has failed. The difference between a Civil Partnership and a marriage carried out in a registry office or other licensed establishment is really nothing more than semantics.
                              Patriotism is supporting your country all the time, and your government when it deserves it.

                              Mark Twain.

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                              • amateur51

                                #30
                                Originally posted by Mr Pee View Post
                                I have plenty of gay friends. I do work in Theatre you know!!

                                The point about the C of E being exempt from this legislation is that it means this is equality with a very small e, because the rights of gay couples to get married are not the same as heterosexual couples, who can choose a Church wedding if they so wish. So what is the point of this bill? If it's about equality, then it has failed. The difference between a Civil Partnership and a marriage carried out in a registry office or other licensed establishment is really nothing more than semantics.
                                The Church of England ceased to be relevant to the lives of most citizens of this country many years ago entirely as a result of its own actions.

                                There are plenty of unpleasant people in the theatre too, as in most walks of life, Mr Pee :winkeye:

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