Phrases/words that set your teeth on edge.

[kernelbogey]

MANSPLAININGIt was explained next day as describing the way some men try to dominate women in arguments by interrupting and talking over them...

My understanding is that it is more commonly used to describe patronisingly male explanations to women, as though the topic is beyond their understanding. (I recently experienced this in reverse when a female colleague was explaining to me her technique for propping open a sagging sash window as though I had never previously come across a sash window. It was an instructive experience!)

[oddoneout]

My understanding is that it is more commonly used to describe patronisingly male explanations to women, as though the topic is beyond their understanding. (I recently experienced this in reverse when a female colleague was explaining to me her technique for propping open a sagging sash window as though I had never previously come across a sash window. It was an instructive experience!)

That is the usual understanding of the term, and is the definition appearing in online dictionaries. It's a rather ungainly term but does have its uses. The diagram on here clarifies https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article...d-in-one-chart
The habit of talking over and interrupting others that happens with both sexes that SA notes is not the same thing - it's all too often plain bad manners and inability to discuss in a civilised fashion, not helped by poor management of debate.

[french frank]

MANSPLAINING

A term I only came across recently in connection with Tess and Rishi's first televised discussion for the Tory leadership. It was explained next day as describing the way some men try to dominate women in arguments by interrupting and talking over them, and as thus is a term I find sexist given that women are equally prone to this selfsame strategy for dealing with disagreement, as was clearly evidenced on this morning's Jeremy Vine on CH5, in which all participants - the presenter and three panellists - were women.

I don't know whether there's a special word for it, but whether men interrupt women more than women interrupt men has been frequently researched. The conclusion is that men interrupt women far more than vice versa:

https://www.advisory.com/daily-briefing/2017/07/07/men-interrupting-women

[Lento]

Maybe "girlsplaining" would be the opposite.

[Bryn]

Maybe "girlsplaining" would be the opposite.

That might be taken as matronising.

[ahinton]

That might be taken as matronising.

!!!

[french frank]

That might be taken as matronising.

Sound point. I wonder why there is no female equivalent

[ardcarp]

I had to chuckle when on a news programme this morning someone mentioned that in the Commonwealth Games, there would be more medals for women than for men. They (neutral pronoun) went on to say it was a recognition of equality. Er......

[Serial_Apologist]

Sound point. I wonder why there is no female equivalent

Speaking of manspreading - the selfish and unsightly habit of men splaying their legs on bus and train seats which I initially took mansplaining to be derived - my memories slid back to the 1960s when for a short time I was managing a Wimpy bar in the West End. Some young miniskirted women sitting on one of the banquettes were approached by my successor for the evening shift, a Miss Lanham, and told in no uncertain terms to "Come on now, girls, put your legs together: we don't want the boys taking a peek now, do we?!"

[kernelbogey]

...told in no uncertain terms to "Come on now, girls, put your legs together: we don't want the boys taking a peek now, do we?!"

A good example of 'matronising'?

[Serial_Apologist]

A good example of 'matronising'?

The term would have perfectly fitted Miss Lanham. She would stride in on shift, hair centrally parted and tied in a tight bun, brow permanently furrowed, start by taking a look at the figures and say, "Is that all your takings, Mr ******? Not good enough!!"

[Nick Armstrong]

People who’ve received an award or suchlike saying they are “humbled” when of course they mean (and can quite legitimately say) that they are very proud to receive it.

[french frank]

People who’ve received an award or suchlike saying they are “humbled” when of course they mean (and can quite legitimately say) that they are very proud to receive it.

Yes, that's curious, isn't it? One generally feels humbled in the face of someone else who has done something wonderful e.g. Belmonte, when Pasha Selim allows him to go free instead of taking revenge for what his father had done.

[oddoneout]

People who’ve received an award or suchlike saying they are “humbled” when of course they mean (and can quite legitimately say) that they are very proud to receive it.

It makes me smile because it conjures up the Victorian notion of "knowing your place" - eyes cast meekly down, cap in hand...

[Serial_Apologist]

It makes me smile because it conjures up the Victorian notion of "knowing your place" - eyes cast meekly down, cap in hand...

You could still be humbled if you were not expecting an award, provided that was not false modesty!