Does your spouse/partner share your musical tastes?

[cavatina]

Maybe, as cavatina says, I'm a romantic time-waster?

Oh no! I'm all about shared values; that's at the very core of it. What I meant by "romantic time waster" is someone who fancies themselves "in love with you" without your having much in common with them at all. To my mind, superficial attraction is fleeting and just isn't enough to build a shared life with someone.

And believe me, I've never, ever done "comfortable and dull"-- perhaps it has to do with my always gravitating toward sparky people.

[Mandryka]

"Badly wrong"? Oh, not at all! That's when you know someone is really on your wavelength...if you've never had that kind of closeness, you don't know what you're missing.

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My mother and my stepfather have 'that kind of closeness' - listening to them drives me mad! :)

[cavatina]

My mother and my stepfather have 'that kind of closeness' - listening to them drives me mad! :)

Well, maybe that's because they're different from you; perhaps you just haven't found your sort of person yet.

If you don't mind my asking, what's the advantage of having relationships with people you keep at arm's length? Wouldn't you enjoy having someone with whom you could share your deepest thoughts and most meaningful experiences?

[teamsaint]

me and the present mrs Teamsaint both like
Plenty of Baroque
XTC
the B 52's
bellowhead
rachmaninov
mozart(the good stuff)
some vaughan williams
shostakovich SQ 8
The Men they Couldn't hang
some Chopin
for example, and lots of other bits and pieces.
i like some things she doesn't(well quite a lot actually).
she like some things I don't(not a great deal ).

I play things three times in the background to sneak in under her radar...and sometimes I convert her.

It seems to work and we rub along ok.

you have to cherish the places where you meet, and allow for the places where you don't.

[french frank]

Talking of Shostakovich: getting back to Howard & Hilda and to add a bit of class to this thread, did anyone remember that the theme music (hope the link words for you - it does for me) to Ever Decreasing Circles was No 15 of Shostakovich's 24 Preludes?

Hope Mr and Mrs teamsaint enjoy that

[Donnie Essen]

My lady, she's like a tabula rasa, man, she didn't know nothing before. She liked Classical generally, and some sorta dance music from some previous boyfriend that she'd go to raves to pop pills with, but as for the rest, nothing. But she can absorb anything with those clean ears of hers and appreciate it intuitively and come up with some pure and decent response without actually ever bringing anything to the table for me to encounter. We don't diverge much on these. She has great disdain for Mike Love and his place in the Beach Boys, only reluctantly agreeing to his importance. And she thought Kenny Rogers was not a nice person when we saw him live, but she thinks his music is okay. But generally, we get on, with love for pop and rock and all kinds o' classical. She can follow my every whim and seems to absorb and mimic my zeal for stuff. I aint' married her, so I got a tattoo with her name on a couple months ago. Not in words, but it's a musical stave and the notes spell it out, not in order so's you can read it straight, but when it sounds as a chord. That's commitment, Donnie-style.

[teamsaint]

mr and mrs teamsaint will certainly don matching woolies and give it a listen..been meaning to pick up a CD of the preludes, and this news will undoubtedly give impetus to the search !!