This is now quite common

[ardcarp]

Sorry to resurrect an old subject...can't find the old thread....and to plagiarise ff's title, but I am still apoplectic on the subject of PAYING for parties you've been invited to. It now seems to be the norm.

This week, my sixteen-year-old grandaughter was invited by the parents of a schoolfriend to go out for a meal (a) to celebrate GCSE results and (b) to say a sort of farewell as the schoolfriend was moving to a different VIth form. It'll be about £15 plus drinks they said. WHAT!!!!????? We've been feeding and entertaining droves of our g-kids' friends over the Summer Hols and have been pleased to do so. I would rather die than invite someone to a meal/party/celebration AND GIVE THEM A BILL.

What is wrong with the world????

[french frank]

I expect the word 'party' is misleading. If it was described rather differently, with the parents taking the lead in an intiative to provide the year with a group celebration, rather than 'inviting them to party' in a lordly way, it would seem different - like paying for a school outing. Perhaps?

[Flosshilde]

I would rather die than invite someone to a meal/party/celebration AND GIVE THEM A BILL.

Don't you ever suggest to freinds that you go out for a meal to mark a particular event, & then divvy up the bill equally between you?

[jean]

If 'going out for a meal' means going to a restaurant, that's a lot more expensive than eating at home.

If I'm invited to someone's house I don't expect to pay, but if someone arranges a restaurant meal and invites me, then of course I pay my share!

[Beef Oven!]

Sorry to resurrect an old subject...can't find the old thread....and to plagiarise ff's title, but I am still apoplectic on the subject of PAYING for parties you've been invited to. It now seems to be the norm.

This week, my sixteen-year-old grandaughter was invited by the parents of a schoolfriend to go out for a meal (a) to celebrate GCSE results and (b) to say a sort of farewell as the schoolfriend was moving to a different VIth form. It'll be about £15 plus drinks they said. WHAT!!!!????? We've been feeding and entertaining droves of our g-kids' friends over the Summer Hols and have been pleased to do so. I would rather die than invite someone to a meal/party/celebration AND GIVE THEM A BILL.

What is wrong with the world????

I love Pooter.

[DracoM]

It's an American custom I beleive, along with the embarrassingly glutinous school etc 'Proms'. In Seattle once, I was invited to a 'party' to mark a musician's departure for an orchestra in the Mid-West, got there - a private house - and was asked to shell out $50. I walked away. Guy never spoke to or communicated with me again. Hmm.

[ardcarp]

Don't you ever suggest to friends that you go out for a meal to mark a particular event, & then divvy up the bill equally between you?

...No, not if the particular event is something that is to do with us, e.g. birthday, anniversary, etc. And in this case it was adults inviting a child...just one special friend, not the whole class.

[ardcarp]

Don't you ever suggest to friends that you go out for a meal to mark a particular event, & then divvy up the bill equally between you?

...No, not if the particular event is something that is to do with us, e.g. birthday, anniversary, etc. And in this case it was adults inviting a child...just one special friend, not the whole class.

[Tevot]

Hello there,

When I was a lad, going to a party was a simple process. You went - bringing a present - and enjoyed whatever food and entertainment there was on offer (Crisps, Trifle and Pass the Parcel make a formidable combo imho ) and then went home...

I feel short-changed. Nowadays kids return from parties with all kinds of goodie-bags.

Go to a birthday party - and get a present.

What will they think of next !?

Best Wishes,

Tevot

[MrGongGong]

What will they think of next !?

Vote Lib get Tory ?

(THAT'S A JOKE FF )

[Tevot]

Vote Lib get Tory ?

(THAT'S A JOKE FF )

" Say 'No Thanks' - and we'll give you a goodie bag. Honest ! (Once its been properly costed of course...) " :p

[ardcarp]

When I was a lad, going to a party was a simple process. You went - bringing a present - and enjoyed whatever food and entertainment there was on offer (Crisps, Trifle and Pass the Parcel make a formidable combo imho ) and then went home...

...wot no jelly???

[jean]

...in this case it was adults inviting a child...just one special friend, not the whole class.

But you haven't given us the crucial bit of information - was it at someone's house, or a restaurant?

[Old Grumpy]

Dear Ardcarp

£15 - granddaughter can pay for it - she probably has more spare cash than you anyway! Oh, and she can drink tap water - no extra cost.

Yours

Old & Grumpy

[Tevot]

...wot no jelly???

I'd very much hope there'd be some in the Trifle !

Otherwise it be fraud