Originally posted by Nick Armstrong
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There are a few other choice bits in that article - such as the para which has this sentence
He likes to be liked and hates direct confrontation.
I have known some people to find hesitation works well for them. It's hard to know whether it's always deliberate - it may not start off that way. Possibly people do a lot of dithering, then discover that they are still put in a (for them) better position as a result. After that it may become a possible strategy for the future. As such, from a purely selfish point of view, it may be a strategy that will work, and as such is not an unintelligent approach - on occasions.
A better approach IMO for someone with that degree of perceptiveness is for even greater awareness of one's own actions and statements on what other people will do - and whether that will be a "good thing" or not. That should not only take into account one's own personal benefits, but also whether other people benefit or are disadvantaged, things which some people don't seem to care much about.
Possibly many of us have said and done things where we didn't anticipate how others would interpret and act, sometimes with regret afterwards. Someone interacting and influencing many other people needs to be aware of possible outcomes, and hopefully avoid the worst problems, rather than trying to backtrack, U-turn, and backtrack again as events unfold.
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